It’s Valentine! Dear Sir, Be Your Daughter’s Val’

It’s Valentine! Dear Sir, Be Your Daughter’s Val’

Hiya!!! It’s Valentine!

But first, permit me to say a Happy New Year to you!

How have you been? How are you doing?…. Lol

It’s my first time on here this year . . . after a well-deserved break, and I’m glad to be back.

I’ve had quite the time prepping for the year, rejigging a few plans . . . and so far, it’s been somewhat interesting.

I hope to share my journey with you again, this year. . . and I hope that you share yours too.

How has it been at your end?

Especially this past Valentine . . . how was it for you?

Here at my end, it was a busy Monday, and I had planned to meet with a friend after office hours, for dinner. Unfortunately, I couldn’t make it due to the traffic and fuel situation that day.

Anyways, later that night, while reflecting on how my day went and the whole valentine’s buzz on social media, I got thinking about the essence of Valentine.

I understand that it is a season of love, and it is an opportunity for people to celebrate their love and relationships, true!

Even so, you will agree with me that many people, especially young adults have a misguided interpretation of love, and they capitalize on the valentine season to perpetrate all sorts of misconduct.

I thought of how we could preserve our young adults; help them redirect their focus, and put the season to good use.

Now, while I agree that most well-meaning organizations, go all out to keep young adults positively entertained during this season – from youths programs to singles hang-outs, religious organizations also do their best to engage the younger generation progressively.

I still believe that there is more to be done, particularly, on the home front.

You see, at the risk of sounding cheesy, I firmly believe that valentine’s season is an opportunity for parents to help their children imbibe a healthy sense of awareness, self-worth, and confidence.

Particularly, fathers to their daughters.

It's Valentine's Day! Dear Sir, Be Your Daughter's Val -

The father/daughter bond plays a crucial role in the life of the girl child.

He is typically her first contact with the opposite sex.

If you ask me, I’d say that he is her first boyfriend.

The presence of a loving father helps her develop a firm understanding of what true love means.

Besides, experiencing the love and care of her parents helps the girl child develop a sense of confidence and security that isn’t swayed by external validation.

She won’t define her sense of worth by her looks or her sexual appeal.

She won’t struggle with daddy issues, low self-esteem, feelings of unworthiness, and people-pleasing tendencies that would make her vulnerable to predators.

She will be grounded with a healthy sense of identity and contentment that is powered by her inner convictions and she will confidently resist the pressure to belong.

She will fearlessly take on challenges with the tenacity and doggedness that will help her realize her goals, and she will make smart choices based on her healthy sense of worth and sound value system.

So, Sirs and Mas, as you take the time to celebrate your spouse, be intentional about your girl child too.

Show her how to love, and be loved.

Be your daughter’s Val!

I hope you enjoyed reading this . . . please share your thoughts in the comments section, I would love to read from you.

If you would like to develop a healthy sense of awareness, self-worth, and confidence, listen to these episodes on ‘How To Develop Your Self-Awareness’ and ‘How To Build Your Self-Confidence’. I will see you in my next post . . . bye!

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Ayokanmi Oluwabuyide is a Personal Development Enthusiast who hopes to inspire young adults to live their best lives without compromising their individuality. She expresses this passion through her Own Your Upgrade blog and podcast.

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